Worth the Wait

TommyBlumberg.com: Worth the WaitGod gives a loving wedding gift to every bride and groom. He’s created a beautiful way for a man and a woman to communicate their deepest love, trust, and friendship within the sacred covenant of marital faithfulness.

Some believe that fidelity is unnecessary. They choose to follow a moral code called situational ethics, which promotes the idea that ethical decisions should be made on a case-by-case basis rather than guided by absolute truth. However, this standard has proven to be a bad investment because it results in sexual bankruptcy. Couples who engage in sex before marriage often experience a plaguing feeling of guilt, emotional dissatisfaction, and the confusing feeling that something must be wrong.

Partaking of marital benefits without marital commitment prompts two important questions:

  1. Why do I still feel empty and unfulfilled inside?
  2. If the person I’m with is so good, then why am I still looking?

A divine design

The church is not exempt from promiscuity. According to Barna Research, most young Christians are as sexually active as their non-Christian peers, even though they are more conservative in their attitudes about sexuality. 1

Since God designed the best plan for a satisfying sexual relationship—within the context of marriage—why would couples deprive themselves of that enjoyment?

Jim Daly of Focus on the Family said, “Sadly, the cheapening of sex is having a long-term impact on marriage…which in turn negatively impacts parenting. It’s a tragic chain reaction of events that works together to undermine the institution of family.” 2

Is it true love?

Many college students say, “I’m not really sure if it’s love or lust. All I know is that our sexual experience together is awesome, and I sure hope this relationship lasts longer than the other ones.”

The Barna Research Group offers a historical perspective on morality. They explain, “The moral code began to disintegrate when the generation before them–the Baby Busters—pushed the limits that had been challenged by their parents—the Baby Boomers. The result is that without much fanfare or visible leadership, the U.S. has created a moral system based on convenience, feelings, and selfishness.” 3

Barna Research goes on to say, “The consistent deterioration of the Bible as the source of moral truth has led to a nation where people have become independent judges of right and wrong, basing their choices on feelings and circumstances. It is not likely that America will return to a more traditional moral code until the nation experiences significant pain from its moral choices.”

The trail of broken hearts from having sex outside of marriage grows longer every day.
The trail of broken hearts from having sex outside of marriage grows longer every day. Your God-given conscience serves as an alarm system to warn you of a dangerous situation. The Lord wants to keep you from the cruel emotional pain of rejection, embarrassment, anger, and jealousy, not to mention the devastation of being used, abused, and left alone. He wants you to save your sexuality for that special someone who will love you enough to share more than a bed with you.

Our sexuality is strong, but it’s also a very fragile part of our being. This gift from God was never meant to be passed around to anyone who’s interested, or given away as a “benefit package” of friendship. Don’t settle for a few cheap thrills and trash your future. It’s not worth the cost.

Never too late

If you’re struggling in this area, Jesus wants you to know that:

  • He will take your broken heart and heal it.
  • He will give you a new start and a pure heart.
  • He will make you whole, and then holy.

[tweetable]Jesus didn’t come to condemn you. He came to love you, forgive you, and share His truth with you.[/tweetable] He promises to minister to every need and desire. When you surrender your desires and temptations to Him in prayer, He’s able to fill your emptiness with an overwhelming abundance of satisfying love, grace, hope, and truth.

Jesus not only wants to save you, He wants to make you into the right person for your future spouse. His gift is worth the wait!

For an encouraging description of godly love, especially in marriage, read
1 Corinthians 13:1-7.

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